Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Ask Flower Power: Old Flame, New Flame - my answer
Do you remember when I posted this letter from a friend of mine (which as it turned out is from a friend of hers)? Well, here is my answer:
Do you love your friends? Do you like and respect them at all? Then let me ask you this, if you do respect them, then why don't you listen to them. You ask them for advice, you talk to them about your issues, they've seen you through your worst moments and still want to hang out with you - why do you disregard what they say?
If there's one thing I hate it's stupidity and it seems to me you are showing more than a little of its symptoms. You say he lied and cheated on you. You say you fought excessively. You say your friends hate him because he isn't good for you, has caused you pain and wasted your time. What exactly are you doing even taking his calls?
Let me tell you a true story: Once upon a time in this awesome but doomed kingdom everyone was celebrating something pagan when a hand came out of nowhere and wrote in blood on the wall, " Mene, mene tekel upharsin" meaning that God had numbered their days and brought the kingdom to an end. No one listened and what do you think happened? Do you think they lived happily ever after with their Boo? No. All hell came crashing down on their heads.
It's all fun and games until someone ends up with a forbidden fruit in their mouth, given to them by a snake, and end up being kicked out of the Paradise to wander the earth in ugly clothing and bad hair, painfully giving birth to murderous children. That's another little nugget from Bible times that you would do well to read again.
It seems like you had a good thing going with your New Flame and it would be really sad to end a good thing just to see how the bad thing is going to work out. We've all seen this movie and we know how it ends. It ends with you falling flat on your face and crawling back to the friends you didn't listen to with your tail between your legs, begging them to comfort you and tell you you're not as much of a fool as you and the entire universe know you are.
You're not the only one who pays for your mistakes, you know. Your friends do too. They have to listen to you whine and sob whenever things don't end well. So, if you can see the writing on the wall, and so can your friends, then please don't be like those stupid girls in horror movies who walk outside by themselves in their PJ's and then surprise, surprise, get hacked to bits.
You deserve better than him. Just say no. He sounds like an addictive poison and looking in my crystal ball I can tell you right now that no good can come of this. Your friends know what they're talking about. You have a very probable future with a great, successful, rich, sweet man who adores you, treats you like a princess and hasn't cheated on you or caused you pain. DO NOT LET GO OF HIM! Burn Old Flame's number and never look back. Good riddance to bad rubbish!